Friday, April 10, 2009

Words to Live By...

You know, I always say you should give anything a chance, whether it's a book, a movie, a song, a food or a person, whatever. Something you automatically assume you won't like may just be something you find you love. And sometimes, even if you don't love the 'whole' of something, there may be a part, however small, that just speaks to you.

I say this because, while watching an episode of the old TV show "Designing Women", I was struck by just how real and true and meaningful this little speech by Julia is. Here is what she said, to her sister Suzanne:


"In the end, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about you. People are going to forget you about ten minutes after you die, anyway.

The point is, you have to be exactly who and what you want to be.

Most everybody's coasting along on phony public relations. People who say being beautiful or rich or thin makes them happy, people who are trying to make their marriages or their children seem better than they actually are. And for what? Appearances! Appearances don't count for diddly.

When it's all said and done, all that counts is what was true, and truly felt, and how we treated one another. And that's it."


This is something I truly believe we should all strive to remember. It may be a cliche, or corny, or whatever, but it is true and well-known for a reason.

Don't judge a book by it's cover.

And don't spend all your time making your "cover" pretty and appealing, cause all that really matters is what is inside.

Make the story of you amazing.


Here is the clip, from YouTube (jump to 14:00 for just the above speech):



  1. More sitcom philosophy to live by:

    " while you're here enjoy the view. Keep on doing what you do.
    So hold on tight we’ll muddle through, One day at a time.."

  2. It's a wonderful sentiment and the way we all should approach each other. If only it was that easy! It took me about 25 years not to judge by appearances. I think I've got it down pat now.

  3. I have to say its a sentiment that can't be said often enough...its a philosophy my father followed and it has kept me going when things got stupid and I hate to admit that I watched more episodes of Designing Women than I will ever admit under oath. Thanks for the remind.